So you think your man won’t cheat on you? The truth is, given a chance, he surely will. Cheating is the result of the perfect combination of an opportunity, reasons and a bunch of justifications. When it comes to cheating, if there is a will, there are a lot of ways to do it. It is a game of “hide and seek” – the more your guy can get out of it without a scratch, the more cheating becomes desirable thing to do. But conscience can really get in the way. While he may love the idea of the game and gets addicted to cheating, he still has to convince himself that what he is doing it not bad, not really. That is why your guy may be going through a helluva time telling himself it is alright to cheat. The following justification might be in his mind right now and you better know how to counteract it.
1. I am in an open relationship and it is okay for my wife that I play around.
Yeah, only that you were not informed you are in an open relationship with him. If you don’t want him using this to convince it is okay to cheat you, then tell him outright, at the beginning of your relationship or marriage that yours is an exclusive relationship and you don’t want to share him with anyone else.
2. My wife is frigid. Only you are not, not really.
You just don’t have sex for a while because your husband is thinking about having sex with someone else. What you should do is to stop being shy of making the first move. He is your husband after all and he is as obligated as you are to have sex with each other. If you do this, his mind will not agree you are frigid so he can scratch this as a reason to cheat.
3. You don’t like to have sex with him anymore.
Well, you must have sensed him wanting to hit someone else. But no matter, you show him you want him by kissing him senseless whenever you have a chance. Touch him and make him crazy. There is no room for pride in marriage. If the days are gone where your husband woos you to bed, then you woo him to bed.
4. You don’t care what your husband does with his time.
You do care but I doubt if he will ask you that. Be sure your line of communication is open all the time. If he is at the office, email him sweet nothings. If he gets annoyed, tell him you want him home in time because you have a surprise for him. This should keep him thinking you don’t give room for some extra time where he can play around.
5. The marriage only exists because of the children.
This may be true but really, when you don’t have a husband with you anymore, your children can’t provide you all your need. So you have to admit you keep your husband handy for needs only he can fulfill legally. So why deny this to yourself. Tell your husband that you need him and he better man up to provide you with these needs. Just be sure you make it clear that your need of him has nothing to do with the children.
6. Your marriage is on the rocks.
Only there is no real confrontation to confirm it is so. All is just a silent treatment. So start talking. You have to make it clear to your husband where you both are in your marriage. You have to be honest to tell him you still want to make things work and he better agree on that. You have to divert your husband’s attention on you and on patching up your relationship.
7. You always knew he was a playboy.
Don’t confirm this. You tell him you trust him to be a good husband. He might think he is such a player when he is single but you emphasize it enough that he is already married; thus resigned with his playing around. Well, you can’t really dictate that to him. But you just let him know that’s what you think. He might still convince himself he is such a playboy but he will not be able to say to himself that you allow him to continue to be one, not while you are his wife.
8. You don’t love him and that you will soon be separated.
He can say this to himself but if you are always open with what you feel no matter how awkward he thinks it is, telling him you love him will never bring this misconception. Word of advice, don’t tell him you love him while he is in such a feat or annoyed with you. Don’t use the word love if you just want him to love him back because saying “I love you” won’t make a person love you back. Just be open to how you feel so that there will be no miscommunication or assumptions on the feelings you feel or don’t feel.
9. You don’t give him the time of your day.
Be sure that you call your husband’s attention every day so he knows you think of him and he better be a good boy.
10. You are always fighting.
If you are, then take time to evaluate your relationship. Learn how to compromise.
Your husband can call hundreds of reasons why he should cheat you and the funny thing is that you can counteract it all. If you want him to stick around and not think to cheat, you better have his attention on you and the relationship you have built with him. Don’t just give him up to someone without a fight. He is yours just as much as you are his.