Yes, you are new in this game. In fact, you did not expect this to happen at all. That is why you are ill equipped to hide the affair from your spouse. How can you be calm about all this – the affair is exciting; you want to put a stop to it; you want it to last; you want so many things you just can’t pretend that nothing is amiss. And every day that you are with your spouse, you feel like she will confront you with the knowledge of your extra marital activities. You are in deep trouble and you are losing your wits covering it up. Fortunately you don’t need to be a veteran of the game of illicit affair to be able to pull it off without a scratch. You will be amazed just how many people or couples cheat without getting caught and just moved on. You can do this too. You can enjoy the affair, get out of it if you got bored and never let on that you are cheating. All it takes is to avoid these lousy giveaways.
Okay, men zones out, it is in their nature. But zoning out and never coming back is another thing. Wives bask for connection. The moment you zone out too much and not reminding yourself to go back in and connect with your wife, you are letting on that something has changed; and as a wife, your spouse will go on straight suspecting that you are having an affair. So don’t keep that blank expression on your face. You might think blank means you can keep your excitement at bay. Be natural around your spouse at all cost and keep her attention on other interest so she will not think about you so much. If you daydream about your mistress and she caught you zoning out, you might feel defensive if she burst your bubble. So avoid such situation and be assertive.
Fidgety and foul temper
Any change of character that is all so sudden will have your spouse searching for evidence that you are hiding something. And this is something you don’t want to happen. But this is likely so if you are a nervous wreck around the house. And if you are like a time bomb ready to explode with just a slight trigger, the wife will certainly see that you are up to something and that something is not good. That is why you have to learn how to relax. If you are just calm and act as though nothing has changed, then you will get to enjoy your date a while longer.
The thing is that you have to stay as you were before to keep your spouse off your trail. You have to ensure you are not rude all of a sudden. One thing that will commonly happen when you are dating someone else is that you can’t help it but compare your wife with her. If this happens, you will no longer have the patience for your wife; thus you become more irritated if she does not give you what you want. This is a dead giveaway. So, if you are dating someone else, you have to be objective about it, if you can.
You fell in love with your mobile phones or computer and don’t want to be part of it
As a rule, you don’t use your mobile phone or your laptop or any other personal gadget as a means of communication in your marriage dating. This is the number evidence provider to a spouse and you will surely get caught if you leave some messages undeleted in your call history. And if you keep it all clean, the wife will still suspect you of something if you are always holding it to delete your history. So keep your use of phone casual by not using it to contact your lover.
Remember that as much as you want to be with your date, you have to keep everything at home as though everything is good; that nothing is amiss. If you have children or if you don’t want divorce severe your marriage for good, then you have to ensure you do nothing out of ordinary at home. You don’t get angry easily all the time; you don’t become a nervous wreck; you don’t zone out and stop connecting with your wife and kids; and lastly, you don’t get too much attach to your phones or personal computer. Otherwise, you will find yourself in a process of getting a divorce.