Of course you would want to keep your dating a secret. You don’t want your wife to join you while you went out for a dinner date, do you? Your plans for the rest of the evening will never suffice if this is so. You know, if you want to date while married and keep it a secret, you should think like a woman. Women are suspicious bunch and they will start to smell something fishy the moment you change, even with valid reason. So if you want to go out and try this adventure of a lifetime, then you have to thoroughly think like your wife and beat her pesky intuitions or should I say suspicion off your back right from the start.
Husband- know thy wife
Wives who have no idea how their husbands are cheating on them are those whose husbands are caring, loving and who keeps their finances in the open. Yes, really impossible to date if you lay down all your cards. But the moment you keep something from her is the moment she will start suspecting you. So know your wife. Listen to every word she said about you. Know her expectations of you. Is she so used to you coming home early? Is she expecting your call every hour to keep her informed where you are? Does she know what is going on with your work? If so, you have a work cut out for you. Yes, great work but not impossible if you know all her expectations from you. This way, if you plan your dating adventure, you will know what to give her, to keep up to her so that she won’t suspect a thing. So what should you keep in mind to do if you plan to date on the side?
1. Don’t change any routine. If you use to work and go home right away, don’t change this. If you let her have the phone, let her. If you let her have your online account password, then don’t change the password.
2. Don’t be sweet all of a sudden. If you have been sweet since day one, then nothing wrong about it. But if you have been a bore for a while since you got married, then continue to do so. However, you might sweeten your relationship a notch by listening more to her and let her think you at long last start to open up with her. The thing is if you continue to take your wife for granted, she already suspects you of cheating even while you are still thinking about it.
3. Start to keep her off your track by taking on different assignments at work, if possible. Now, the sound of overtime already puts you on the radar. So if you say you have over time, invite her to come to work to pick you up or anything that will make her see you are really working. Don’t go overtime every night or during weekend until you see she believes you explicitly.
4. Be sure you make her happy by giving a quality time with her and the kids every weekend. You know, a happy wife will never suspect a thing so keep her happy.
Start your conquest with the right person
You know, it is the law of supply and demand. If you are itching to date even while married, there are women who are also itching to date married men. What!? Yeah, it is true. If men cheat because of conquest, there are single (or married) women who date for that reason too. Some just want to feel a sense of victory having slept with a married man. Well, it is not easy to spot this kind of women because they really wouldn’t come out in the open and say, hey, I like married men. And these might not be the kind of women you would want but if you want plain adventure, you might want to date this kind of woman. So how to know you can date this person even she knows you are married:
1. Be honest. You wear your badge of marriage proudly. Talk to women about your wife and how you love her and show them just how much. You will notice someone will consistently gush about it and say “I wish I can find someone like you”.
2. Establish a ‘friendly’ relationship. Have lunch with your target. Make her feel comfortable with you.
3. Learn to be patient. If you want things to go smoothly, you have to be patient. Wait for a signal from her before you take a move. You know, if women find you are such a gentleman, you really don’t have to do anything except open your arms when they jump on you.
If your work enable you to go to places, it would be easier to date. Your take on the new strategy of course. Establish a single status without really saying you are. Flirt around and shop for a woman you can date. This is easier done if you don’t have a wife nearby constantly hanging on your shoulder.
How to keep it a secret
Don’t make promises you can’t keep. If your date knows you are married right from the start, she knows the rule. And keep it that way. You have, at all cost, prioritize the commitment you have with your wife and kids. Women call this relationship management. Women on affair with the same man can go on for years without being caught because they set the rule of the game and they are being honest with their status, you do this too. You have to set the rules. So what are the rules?
1. No calling you on the cell phone or emailing you, ever. If she breaks the rule, date is off. Meeting with her is always pre-scheduled.
2. Always pay with cash. Don’t ever purchase anything using credit card even if it is yours and not shared. Your wife can still get hold of the credit report and might see an irregularity.
3. Always date far away and privately so that no one you know who knows our wife will spot you accidentally.
4. Before the other women get too much attached to you, stop the affair and start looking for another who is preferably not from work as you might get a reputation your wife can easily get hold of. You can continue with the affair after all has mellowed down and you broke up with the other girl you found.
5. Don’t be greedy. Just date one girl at a time.
Yeah, it is very hard and very wrong to date on the side while you are married. But if you find it satisfying, you just have to be sure you spare your wife the hurt it will surely cause her and the devastation it will cause on your children. Ensure that all throughout your dating adventure, you maintain being the perfect husband and a good father to your children.