Infidelity has always been popular since biblical times. It seems that it is something that humans cannot live without. There are some tribes which originated from ancient civilizations made infidelity legal and acceptable within their society. This is to produce as plenty descendants as they can. Now that the world is becoming over populated, restrictions and values improvement mandates everyone to stick to one husband or wife. Going under the root of divorce can help you keep your marriage.
No. 1: We do not connect anymore
Married couple does cannot connect emotionally. Even if they have hot sex every night and they spend all time together, if they cannot see eye-to-eye, then divorce is at hand. There really is no unexpected divorce unless you are not serious about your marriage. The hurts and the confusion slowly build up over time. The accumulation of accusations and the feeling of being left out are potent to crumble your married life. Try to find some good things in your marriage. Keep the flame alive by loving each other every day instead of finding faults with the other and resolving to an extramarital affair.
No. 2: We do not have exciting sex anymore
Sex is an intimate connection between you and your spouse. It is a nit physical union. It is also a mental and emotional connection. It is a wrapped up, all-in combination of needs that you have to nurture in marriage. If you do not have an exciting sex, your partner will get bored and look for the excitement somewhere else. The reason why mistress exists is because they are so competitive with the wife. They wanted the husband to want them over her. If given them a winning experience. If you are a wife, develop this kind of mentality. Be competitive too. Be physically attractive because this is part of successful sex. If you are full-bodied, transform it into a voluptuous body by enhancing your curves.
No. 3: The in-laws are getting in the way
Repairing your marriage should be between you and your spouse. When your in-laws are burdening you, you have to separate from them. Banish them temporarily until you reach the time that you, as husband and wife are stabilized emotionally.
No. 4: The pain is too much to handle
Extramarital affair is almost present in all marriages today. It might be a secret or an uncovered secret. As you both hold on together after the discovery of an extramarital affair, you will stay married. If you ignore the other man or the other woman and you can get through the pain, then marriage will stay intact. Your type of personality is the biggest factor here. If you have developed a strong sense of self, you can recollect your dignity and pride after the insecurities of an affair. If you have no sense of self-worth, you will end up wallowing even after getting a divorce.
What you can do with this kind of problem is to heal yourself. You can do it on your own or you can get a therapist to talk to you about it. The problem with some marriages, they refuse to talk about it. If the pain cuts you afresh every day, talk to your spouse. Ask him why did he do it and find resolution. You have to work toward healing, both husband and wife. Do not cling on the problem for a long time. If there is one thing that you should not do, it is to magnify the role of the mistress in your lives. He is just there for fun. You have the affection and the long term of togetherness. You have the controls where your husband will go. Just be strong because those things that hurt you will only make you stronger.
No. 5: Emotionally battered spouses file for divorce
Who can stand it? If you are hurting every day, you will die out of a broken heart sooner or later in your married life. No wonder why emotionally battered spouses get out of marriage. This is an act of survival. Often times, money matters are a form of emotional stress. Physically capable spouses who refuse to find a job to help you out of a financial problem is a big stress on you. You have to carry the burden of budgeting, taking care of the financial needs of the family and juggling yourself from jobs and in-betweens.
Divorce can be prevented if you stop the accumulation of pain over a long period of time. Study carefully your decision. Getting a divorce is no joke but rather a hard process to go through.