When you are in the bubble of love, you don’t want to think about cheating. That is why, as long as that bubble is not burst, you wouldn’t really be able to accept that you can possibly be cheated on. And if you are in a happy, satisfying relationship in a very long time, you might think there is no reason to believe cheating is on the agenda between the two of you. But you could be in a surprise. Cheating happens, even if you are both happy with each other. That is why, whether you sense changes or not, you have to be vigilant. As they say, better prepared or be sorry in the end. And fortunately, it is not really hard to see signs of cheating if you put your mind into it.
All of a sudden, your partner is a secret agent
One of the common things cheaters have with each other is secrecy. They don’t share where they are, where they have been and what they are doing between those times you are not being accounted for. And if you ask them about it, they will become fidgety and may even get annoyed if you persist in asking. If somehow, after months or years of being open about his whereabouts and now develop this quiet and secretive attitude then he is surely hiding something. Of course, you have to think other possibilities why being secretive. Perhaps it is your birthday or anniversary soon and he or she is cooking something for you. But if not and you have ruled out all other reason, then you have to consider your partner is cheating. This is most especially if his or her being secretive is defensive like and all too sensitive verging to bouts of tantrums if pressed about his or her whereabouts. So, follow this up and you might find your answer – hopefully not with your partner cuddled with somebody else’s arms.
The cell phone is their priceless position and you are not allowed to touch it
For obvious reason, a cheating partner would not like it if you touch his or her cell phone fearing that you might read something there. This is almost a sure sign of cheating if your partner used to be so careless with his or her cell phone and all of a sudden, he or she won’t allow you to touch it. And if you will notice how your partner would answer the phone real quick and goes out or to another place to talk with this person, then you have very solid signs of a cheater.
A stranger now emerged
From a cordial and content person, your partner suddenly has become vain. He or she starts to work out and take super extra effort to look good. This might not be bad at the onset but if you notice that your partner does not seem to seek your approval out on how they look like, then you are not the right person they hope to impress. And not only would they change in appearance, they would somehow develop a personality so out from what he or she used to be. Often, they would be controlling, rude and may even accuse you of cheating. All in all, if you found yourself being with a stranger who doesn’t seem to care what you think or accuse you of just about anything else in the world, then you are in the presence of a potential cheater.
Space is required between the two of you
One very noticeable trait of a cheater is when he or she would want to have more space or privacy. They would want to have their own place in your home where you are not allowed to come in. And you will experience a lot of disconnection too. Gone are the days when you don’t have to speak with each other to understand one another.
No more hot nights
The bed will be colder at night. With cheating comes the disinterest of our partner to have sex with you. And if sex does happen, it seemed to be like more coerced from him or her out of obligation or because of temporary lapse of sanity. The act would also lack the drive or passion as it used to be. Well, when you are in a relationship too long, this might happen too. But with cheaters, the lack of interest with sex happens abruptly or inconsistently.
You will eventually catch your partner in the web of lies
You will also notice a web of lies surrounding your partner, from his or her whereabouts to unaccounted purchases. This will become a pattern too. If you are onto this seemingly endless lies, from small to major things between you two, then you should know that something is up. Explore all other possibilities if you must but this is more likely due to infidelity.
Has become an invisible man
Now, if it comes to a point where your partner – spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend – start to miss out important events of your life like birthday, anniversary, your family events among others, then he or she is no longer in the relationship and is or surely will cheat. The worse part of this scene is when it comes to a point when you are sick and he or she is a no show then you have to think of letting go – unless there is a valid, as in acceptable by you reason why he was not there when you are sick.
Now, these are the usual signs you are being cheated on but remember, these are far from being a proof. You will need to have more facts such as a picture or confession before making some drastic decision most especially if you are married to this person. You have to do everything in your power to mend the marriage. However, if you feel that you have done everything and you are continually cheated on, then you have to do some actions to save yourself.