I know what it’s like to be married for a while and completely forget how to flirt. Once you get married, you don’t flirt with women quite like you did when you were single. Flirting is something that some marriages lack. And it’s a driving force for why men cheat – the spark is lost. Perhaps that is why you’re looking to have an affair.
A former reader of mine sent me a log of a conversation he had with a woman online. He was certain she was interested in him and didn’t understand why she rejected him. I took a look at this chat log and it was painstakingly obvious why she didn’t like him – he was bored. The conversation was lame. It was clear he doesn’t know how to flirt. So I sent him one of my chat logs with a woman I met on AshleyMadison.com to show him the difference between how I flirt and how he flirts. My conversation led to a date, which then led to numerous hookups with this woman. The following is the same chat log I showed him, only I have removed the names from the log (for obvious reasons)…
Me: Good evening, cutie, how are you?
Her: Doing good and yourself?
Me: Better now. I’ve been tired all day for some reason.
Me: Naw, just worn down from work. But enough about me. Let’s talk about how gorgeous you are!
Her: Oh come on now don’t be silly!
Me: I suppose we could talk about how handsome I am if you’d like…
Her: You are that is true!
Me: So anyway, I’m curious what you are doing on this weekend?
Her: Oh just some boring family stuff lol
Me: Can you make room in that busy schedule of “boring family stuff” for me? Maybe Saturday evening?
Her: What about your wife? How are you going to get away from her?
Me: I can probably lock her in the basement. She won’t even know I’m gone.
Her: That sounds extreme lol
Me: Yeah and I’d probably end up in prison for it. I think I will do something a little bit less cruel and just tell her the boss is making me come in on Saturday.
Her: That’s probably a better idea, I agree. What time you think?
Me: Daytime probably. I don’t think she’ll believe me if I tell her I’m going to work on a Saturday night.
Me: If you’re asking me out on a date, I say yes!
Her: Ha! Where are you going to take me?
Me: You pick anywhere you want that has alcohol and I will meet you there at noon on Saturday.
Me: Sure…your choice.
Her: Hmm…I will have to think about this for a minute
Me: Well you have a few days so no hurry. Saturday at noon it is, at some unknown location. Can’t wait to get to meet you!
Her: You too! See you Saturday!