Anybody who cheated feels guilty afterwards. When you realize that you wronged your spouse and you want to ask for forgiveness, You have to develop the right way to do it. If not, you will get your proper sanction for having an affair rather than her forgiving you.
How do you open the topic?
The introduction is the hardest thing to compose. Perhaps you want to practice your punch line first before you start your confession. Here is a step-by-step guide to assist you on your way to forgiveness:
Imagine how she would react. If she knows or she knows not of your affair, you hurt her all the same. Expect that she would cry. This may make uncomfortable for you but, you have to make yourself ready for that.
Evaluate your acts. Recall how did the affair started and how did you end it. She will have a lot of questions. You have to prepare your answers.
Say sorry soon. After you have decided that you do not want to continue cheating her say sorry and mean it. Do not repeat cheating her over and over. Hearts get tired and you will not be accepted again the next time you wander away.
Admit that you are wrong and you wanted to get the whole responsibility of repairing your relationship with her permission.
Don’t expect an immediate result. Forgiveness comes in time. It will take a long for her to forgive you. In her silent moments, she will remember what you did and ask herself why you have done this to her in spite of her efforts to keep your marriage intact. Make yourself available whenever she feels insufficient for you. Assure her that it is not her fault but you did the wrong thing.
When she found out that you were cheating, what are the possible actions she will do?
A wounded woman is scary because she unleashes her arsenal to get up and defend herself. Yes, she will feel sad, pained and insufficient for her husband for a while. But, she will eventually grow out of her shell.
What are the usual results of cheating on your wife? Here are some possible outcomes:
She will cheat on you, too. Be prepared for retaliation. Maybe, she is too curious why her man entered into extramarital affair and how does it feels when you are in it. This may be her way to avenge you or to deeply understand. So, when you do it the next time, she will no longer feel as pained as she is now.
She will file a divorce. If she thinks that she is better off with you, all you can do is to convince her back. If she had taken into consideration to take the advice of her lawyer on what to do to make the divorce take into place as soon as possible, then you have a slim chance of wooing her back. Divorce is difficult and emotional. She will have the full custody of your children especially if they are very young and she is capable. You are at the losing end because you are the one guilty. You have to consider this before getting yourself in infidelity.
She will forgive you, eventually (if you are lucky).
You want your wife back after cheating on her, what will you do?
Now, you wanted your wife back after the shitty involvement you had with the girl next door. What will you do to get the positive outcome of asking forgiveness? Here are tips to try:
Play dumb (like you really are). Tell her that you did not know the enormity of your wrong decisions and actions.
Show her that you understand how she feels now.
Listen to her whining all your life. She will have the tendency to tell you how bad you made her feel over and over again. Don’t get pissed off. That is part of your punishment.
Express you love and that you wanted her all your life.
Do everything extra. Give her your time plus extra time. Do this all your life. It will take a lifetime to have your wife forget the once in your beautiful marriage when you crossed the lines of infidelity.
Take her to family counseling.
Having a person outside your marriage who seems to shower you with attention, hot sex and excitement is very tempting. Remember that once you get caught, the trust and the spotless love that you enjoyed from your spouse may no longer be there to catch your fall.