Singles and married both are confused about the hazy line between the act of flirting and cheating. Some of them have misconceptions between these two entangled words. Let’s look deeply into the details and see what is bad and good at flirting and cheating.
I am married then I should not flirt
No flirting for the rest of your life is a good vendetta. It keeps you true to your girlfriend/boyfriend or your spouse, if you are married. But, do you understand what flirting is? Technically the word flirting means “having social or sexual intension to the opposite sex other than your partner” – the key word is “or”; meaning, this may or may not suggest sexual plans but rather heighten social relationship only. What matters is the “intension”. You have to check what you want from the other person to make flirting valid and within the norms of the society.
I’m a flirt, by nature. What are the signs that I’m crossing the line?
There is a thin line between flirting and cheating. Most people, who are used to flirting, either consciously or unconsciously cannot identify the red flags. Here is the general rule to abide by:
When you are aspiring to have a sexual relationship with the person other than your spouse then you are cheating. Ask yourself “Why am I trying to be charming to this person?” Evaluate your motives.
When your wife or girlfriend is jealous. There are particular people that your partner does not like you to blend with. Do not make them angrier by continually flirting and giving sweet conversations. Stop there and then. It will be healthy for your relationship as a married couple or boyfriend-girlfriend.
When the one you are flirting with misinterprets your actions. Flirting can be in deep social relationship like, strengthening business bonds, making the other person feel good about himself/herself. But, sometimes, the other person thought that you wanted something more than just complimenting him then, you have to stop.
I’m married. Is there any benefit that flirting can give to my relationship?
This can be ridiculous but, yes. Flirting can make your love for your partner flourish the more. Here are the reasons why:
Flirting gives you a good chance to be yourself and improve yourself. As humans, we want to be liked from the way we look to the way we socialize. When you flirt, it only means that you are using the best qualities you have to gain stronger bonds to your social circle. Their approval makes you feel confident. You tend to make yourself look good and be pleased. These things are beneficial to your relationship & to your partner because you are more secure about yourself and can lessen your jealousy.
It produces positive connection to others. How you deal with others will reflect back to you. If everyone in your workplace gives you an approval, you will go home happy. Your spouse will be happy to see you happy, too. Then you can have a small celebration for a positive day and a happy relationship.
It is good for your health. Healthy couple gets a chance to live together longer. Flirting makes your blood pressure to drop significantly. Loving actions give healthy feedback to your neurons. As your loving actions are reflected back to you, you will feel more relaxed. Dopamine is released. This neurotransmitter can make you feel excited and satisfied. Isn’t that what you want in a marriage?
Now, that I have my own family, how do I differentiate acceptable flirting from the carnal one?
We all flirt. It shows in the way we dress, wear make-up, socialize and wanting to get approval from the rest of the people around us. So, you have to identify which is the acceptable one and which is not. Here is the measuring stick for your use:
Good flirting – This denotes a charmingly happy voice that offers compliments to other people to make them feel good about themselves. When you want to uplift someone’s spirit, then go ahead and flirt. Boost their confidence to do better in their workplace.
Touchy – This type of flirting is a step closer to cheating. It involves hand movement that you are stroking the other person’s arm or hair. For most people, this is a sign to back out of the conversation.
Dirty – This is over-the-top. You use dirty and sexy words to get the other person’s attention. This is definitely a no-no.