Infidelity does not hold the crown for top marriage wrecker anymore. According to the latest stats, many married couple resorts to divorce because of incompatibility. This means that they are not emotionally capable of nourishing each other.
What is emotional nourishment and why is it important in marriage?
When you decide to get yourself bounded to holy matrimony, you have promised to love and care about the other half. The problem here is that many people who get into marriage forget what they have promised for. They became so busy and so weary about the daily life struggles that they forget to give and reciprocate love and care for one another.
What is an emotional connection, really? It is an understanding of the souls that goes beyond physical attraction. When you say that you are emotionally connected with your spouse, you can feel what the other feels. You can communicate with your eyes and feel with your heart. This connection is a give and take relationship.
Open communication is the key. Even if you are separated by deployment, make your communication open. With that, you know that you can count to each other no matter what happens ahead. Emotional connection can be damaged by dishonesty because you do not know where you connect anymore. You lose tract of the other. You feel betrayed because, all along, when you thought that the connection is solid and exclusive, somebody comes between you like a distraction on an electrical wiring. That is how marriage falls in short circuit.
What is the most important emotional need that binds husband and wife together?
How do you want to be treated in a marriage? Your first answer is the most important emotional need for you. It varies from person to person. If your partner has a different definition of this, then that is where emotional incompatibility is coming from.
The reason why marriage is described as giving patience in every corner of the house, extending understanding and sacrifice is because, your partner has a different personality than you do. You have to adjust to each other. Willingness comes from the heart. If you truly love each other, you have to adjust no matter how different you are in social status, upbringing and culture. Willingness to make each other comfortably, willingness to care and willingness to reciprocate, the willingness is what makes a relationship stronger.
The emotional connection is also essential to parenting. If you are emotionally intelligent, you can manage the roller-coaster ride of emotions on child discipline. Children can be irritating at times. Self-control is a collective form of portraying or shoeing examples how to act during stressful circumstances. It is also the discipline about delaying self gratification. The children become sensitive to others’ needs and feelings before they go for what they want. It is a tool that makes them cope with challenges and comfort themselves during hard times. Emotional connection does not only benefit couples but also their children.
Why do celebrities always tell they fell out of love as a reason for divorce?
This is the common trend these days, as infidelity drops to second; falling out of love is in the first place. This means that emotional connection is closed between the couple and they are not willing to open it back. Perhaps, they do not want to understand each other. Understanding should come from both parties to be effective. Otherwise, it will fail and the marriage will crumble. Have you ever seen old couples who hated each other but refused to get a divorce? It is because they still feel for each other. They are concerned. After the children have grown and they are the only two people together, they refuse to separate ways because they are willing to take the other half’ hostility. They know behind their brains that love and care are masked with casual yelling.
Infidelity can be outdone if both husband and wife are willing to work it out for their marriage
This survey only cemented the fact that infidelity does not matter if you really care for each other. Most couples who are in love with each other, are willing to forgive and give a second chance on marriage, working together through a brink of separation makes the two of you stronger than ever. You will learn to forgive small sins. When the big storm has passed and you survived it, everything else is repairable.
Divorce is not caused by infidelity but rather the lack of emotional connection. Husbands and wives should be sensitive to each others’ needs and fulfill their promises during their wedding vows to care for each other’s needs.