Now that technology can be a channel to call or see the other party on the web, cybersex is easily available. The tricky thing is, it is hard to determine if cybersex is a sin or not as cheating in marriage. There is no touching involved. You just see somebody doing something. You may know her and you may not. Technically, there is no intimate physical contact going on.
I have a computer and I’m a corporate worker, how is cybersex done?
Cybersex has made a leap of creativity. Before, you can only have it in chat rooms. Now, you can have it I Skype, Gmail and other network places that offer video calls. There are sites that sell this type of service. So, you can hire some hottie to talk to you about sexy thoughts.
Some people, especially if they do not want to be identified, they use avatars to conceal their personality. Also, avatars are more exciting to manipulate. You can hide behind it and control it according to your highest fantasy. This is called mudsex or net sex in the MUD. However, there are also other social networking games that regulate their players with this type of activity. The section is banishment for the rest of their life in the game. These games are Warcraft, Final Fantasy, EVE online and Anarchy Online. The Red Light Center is dedicated to cybersexing and other MMORPG’s genre.
What benefit can I get from cybersexing?
This may sound unbelievable but, you can get a lot of benefits from it, actually. Cybersex is a creation for fob ratify sexual drives without having to touch and even, see.
Here are some benefits you can get from doing it:
Writer’s fantasy. Writers of romantic novels and erotic novels need to express sexual encounters in words. The story is more realistic if they are sexually aroused during the process. Cybersex can provide them with a vivid picture of the scene and they can describe so closely the details of the intense sexy feeling if they are on it while writing. This is a form of safe cybersexing. Probably not the cheating kind. It all burns down to the intension why you are having cybersex.
Bridging the distance. Couples who are separated can sustain their engagement to intimate physical closeness through cybersex. This is a kind of beating the physical dimension. It involves less money to spurge because internet is very affordable. You will need only a PC, laptop or a tablet to do this.
No physical impairment known. Anybody can do it. Those people in the wheelchair can do it. They can use avatars to act as if the physical impairment did not occur or is not occurring. It is an exciting way to act out your fantasy without getting physically involved.
Variety in partner selection. You can select any partners you like from the nerdy to the hottie which does not pose any harm to your health by acquiring HIV or AIDS.
Is it a form of cheating?
Yes if you are doing it with anybody other that your wife and you are not writing a novel. Any mental processing of desiring somebody else other than your partner is cheating. You may argue with it as no physical contact, yet the malicious involvement is there. Since it involves no physical touch, it also has no physical consequence like having an HIV or physical attachment to the other person.
If a man has a virtual girlfriend, it is just a moral thing to do to inform her that he is not available for further physical involvement because he is married. The thing is less devastating that physically attached. You true partner or wife will surely get hurt if she reads how explicit sexual involvement with the other even without physical touch.
To others, cheating is relative. If you, as a couple have established a line where you cannot go beyond it, then you are cheating. You have to talk to your wife or your girlfriend about the extent where you can limit yourself. Verbally mention up to what extent you are allowed to. Then argue over it. Have a debate to defend your stand until you can both arrive with a common solution. This is very important for the couple to define which is too much. You can maintain a healthy relationship in your marriage then, cyber sex will not be cheating anymore.