Yes, tell a woman you are married, see what happens. Well, you can’t really say she won’t jump on the bed with you – you really can’t say what’s in a woman’s mind – but it would sure make things easier for you not to tell her. On the other hand, it can be a lot nastier if she finds out you are married; a black eye or two for. So, should you tell this woman you are saliva-dropping-want-to-sleep-with you are married? Maybe yes or maybe no; depends on the following considerations.
What’s the situation with your marriage?
Okay, so you know of this gal who you really want badly; but you are married. This should be reason enough not to look and play around but you know, things happen and maybe you are in not so good relationship with your wife right now. May be you are in the midst of a divorce procedure or maybe you are separated. Maybe you are lonely and you need more intimacies than what you are getting. Or perhaps you are in an open relationship with your wife where you both can sleep with someone else. But for whatever reason you were right now wanting this other woman, you just have to think about your marriage first before nailing someone else. If you don’t care about losing your wife or risking a good relationship then you can start thinking about a plan of sleeping with someone else. You have to know how far your conscience can take you. You have to get these covered before you start thinking whether to tell or not to tell the woman you are eyeing that you are married.
As they say, when you enter into a situation always think of an exit plan
This has something to do with endings than beginnings. If you lie and scheme yourself to bed this woman, you might be successful very quickly. However, you have to understand that once this woman gets hold of the fact that you are married, and she surely will sooner or later, expect something nasty to happen. And don’t expect for her to still stay after knowing you are married. Well, again, this depends on what kind of person this woman is. If she does not value her integrity, maybe she will still have you after the initial shock. And if you still want her after this, then you can have a clandestine love affair – another dilemma you have to think about if you want to end the relationship in the future. Now, if you are being candid about your marriage, with the implication that your marriage under the weather, and still the woman take you on and to her bed, then you don’t have to go through that nasty blows. Longer but can provide you with a great exit if you want to end the relationship. You can just tell her that you and your wife getting back together. No clinging as she supposed to go into this relationship with the fact that you are married. It is really a win-win situation for you. You will still go through a nasty goodbye, but not as bad as compared when you fool someone just to bed her.
Decide on how far, deep and rewarding relationship you want to have with this person
“Decide how far you are ready to take it”
If you want this woman more than her on the bed, then you better tell her your real situation. If she is into you and you are with her and want to start a lasting relationship, then start with honesty and make true to your promises. Make her understand that you are willing to wait and start the divorce process with your wife. If she wants you too, she will wait for you too. It is ideal to end your marriage first before sleeping with the woman you want but hey, if she wants to have a head start with the relationship, you take her on the offer. Now, if you just want to have a fling, then don’t bother telling her you are married. After all, your objective is to bed, not to have someone hanging on your shoulder.
What’s the deal with your wife?
In the end, it all goes back to how are you with your wife. If you value your wife and don’t want to lose her, then maybe, you won’t be thinking about this. But even if you value the wife and you would want to bed another woman anyway, you have to open your mind to the possibility of letting go of the wife someday. You really can’t sleep around and still stay married. The bright side of all this, if you lose your wife because of you sleeping around, you don’t have to bang your head on the wall thinking if you have to tell the other woman you are married because you won’t be soon enough.
The thing is, if you want to bed this woman and you know she is eyeing you too, telling her you are married or not does not matter. You can always find a way to maneuver her to bed. The real question is how you want to end it. If you want a quick fling and don’t care if you have to go through dramas to end it, then don’t tell. But if you want to remain the good guy, then tell her and play with her emotions to bed her and later end the relationship – your picking depends on your prowess to bring someone to your bed.