Men, as well as women, love to be appreciated. Good husbands take care of their family and work hard to put them from the crisis. But why are there stories that men were rationalized with their cheating just because their wives killed their egos?
Abraham Lincoln’s wife is the real tragedy of his life, not the civil war
Anybody who reads history knows who Abraham Lincoln is. To tell you about his political life, he is an amazing father to America. Behind his success in uniting his people a grim story of marriage lies.
It was recorded that Lincoln was married to his wife for about 25 years. Within that span of time, she always complained of anything she sees in him. She nagged her husband of his small face with do not match his large ears, large hands and feet. She moaned about the way he moves in social events. She just complained about anything. That made their marriage in a roller coaster trouble. Mrs. Lincoln- Mary Todd was thought to be the devil that broke the soul of a good man. As the nagging continues through the years until his assassination, Abe Lincoln’s character never changed. This only uncovered the relationship between Lincoln and Ann Rutledge.
What is the moral of this story? Nagging only drives men to cheat.
You have to know the math to understand why men cheat their wives
Men have a lot of alibis when it comes to cheating. They do this to rationalize their actions. Of course, they know that they are doing the wrong thing because everyone who is civilized knows about the norms and religious protocols.
If you what to know what men are looking for a lover, here are the answers:
1. About 48% of married cheat because they think their spouses are able to satisfy their emotional needs. Gone the days when men are alleged to get mistresses to satisfy their sexual needs. Men are human beings too who wanted to feel that they are loved and needed. Wives should understand that their husbands wanted to get an appreciation for the things they are doing to keep their family comfortable.
2. 68% of men who cheat are guilty of their doings. This means that even if they are scared of what might come to them in the future, they continue to plunge deeply into an extramarital affair. Why is this so? Because men have the ability to segregate love from lust. Sure they love their wives but they lusted after the pretty officemate who sits at the next table.
3. Men who cheated have friends who cheated their wives too. If you want to keep track of your husband’s secret activities, ask about his friends. 77% of cheaters have friends who cheat also. Belonging to a same group gives them confidence that this is the real scenario and it is not only he who cheats but also a lot of other people like his friends.
What can a spouse do to keep her man?
Whether you are a wife or a girlfriend, you have to be creative to keep men on your toes. Here are some tips you can use:
Make everything adequate
It sure is a taxing effort. With your office work, house chores and kids, you sure have no energy to spurge on giving him adequate of anything. But, if you want to keep your man, give him emotional support, listen to him, understand his aspiration and be his friend. This is better than nagging and wounding his ego.
Don’t cheat yourself
Perhaps your man has cheated on you, do not retaliate. This will only create a never ending immature eye-for-a-eye wedge between you and your man. Do not cheat nor tolerate his cheating. Talk to him and capture his love again by being loving and appreciative. Go the extra mile.
Show your husband that he still got it
Why do men or women flirt? It is because they wanted to prove to themselves that they are still attractive. Do not let your husband get the suggestion from other women, show him that you desired him as much as the first time you dated.
Experiment with sex from time to time
Sex is always a part of marriage. When your man is bored of your usual pleasure, then he seeks new menu. To keep up with his appetite (and yours, too!), try something new. It could be a new position, new venue, and a new schedule. Be creative.
Don’t give your man a hard time to keep up with your demands. Check yourself and be the best lover he has ever had.