He cheats. She cheats. Infidelity is like a fashion trend in modern times. In a classroom, almost half of the population is kids from broken families because of infidelity. The ever increasing problem has a bad effect on the psychological formation of the new generation. Why do people cheat? What would be there reasons?
Boy! I cheated because I wanted the sexual excitement that she cannot give
Men and women have different reasons for cheating. The first on the list why men cheat is because of boring sex life. For women, the need for deep emotional attachment is the leading cause.
When you marry someone, this is because there are things that you like about him/her. You like how the other person looks at life, solve problems, treat you with TLC, hot sexual relationship and many other things that is very tangible to you. As time goes by, all of these things waxed and waned because of expectations that were not satiated. . The urge to do these things is overpowered by too much familiarity, responsibilities to make the family comfortable and just simply, boredom.
Husbands and wives are simply lazy to find ways to be creative. Looking outside marriage is the easiest way to get a new idea. They get a new taste to flirt and new flavor to the relationship. Everything in life needs constant learning and creativity even in marriage. If you truly care for your spouse, both of you should consider the other spouses’ needs and wants.
He does not give me financial stability and security
Women wanted their man to be responsible to give them assurance that their family is financially secure. They may not be necessarily rich but they should have a steady source of income. This is nature’s design for females to make sure that their children have a good future and can thrive well in the environment. Oftentimes financial mismanagement is the source of infidelity. When the pot no longer has food inside love goes flying out of the window. Ironically, too much money can also break a relationship. So, if you want to marry, do not toil too much for money. Keep the balance sheet sufficient enough for the needs and a little wants of the family. Agree on a certain amount that each spouse is allowed to splurge for himself every paycheck. The needs of the family should be the prime priority.
I have been working offshore for too long
Deployment on the workplaces forces the husband or the wife to look outside the marriage for the affection they need. Separation makes the heart wander to another person. This is because, as humans, we need to be loved, touched and listened. Long absence makes you long for these things. The other half, who went to the other side of the world also found a new, place, opportunity and a lot of new faces. Plus, they have gained confidence that their spouses surely will not know about the cheat because of the distance.
How do you avoid cheating?
Although, cheating is at the discretion of the person if he really wants to cheat or not, there are things you can do to avoid this. You can:
Lessen your expectation. If you are in love you have a tendency to expect too much from your partner. You want him/her to reciprocate the level of your attention. Every person is unique. You have your own way to do things, as well as your spouse. Be contented with what he/she can give you. Open your communication lines to be able to understand each other and take you love into deeper depth as time goes by.
Be spiritual. It helps when you and your partner has a close connection to your religious belief. Studies show that most of the marriages which are based on religion, especially the arranged marriages, do not end up in divorce.
Do things together. It is an enjoyable moment in a relationship that you go out of town to have your adventures together. This should not end when marriage arrive. Save some dates for your family to have picnic sometimes. The bond between husband and wife should be strong and not permeable by extramarital affairs. Have fun together. When you see your spouse smiling or having a good laugh, you feel good about yourself and about the relationship.
Infidelity should not be cultivated. If you see yourself on the verge of the opened door to cheating, step back. Think of what will become of your marriage. Think about how you can make your partner happy. Learn and be creative. Marriage is an unending journey of learning, fun and fidelity.