Oh love! It is a roller coaster ride. When it’s new, you are at its height – heart pumping, libido boosting – then marriage happened. You get this idea of having kids, taking care of a family and then you got so used to each other, you look too much alike people think you are siblings. Now, if this is your case, then you better uncase it. Just because you both are in a labyrinth of marriage you have no right to rekindle romance? Do crazy things with each other and sweeten things up, after all, if you both are lucky enough, you both will be on this together for a lifetime. Do date each other again and do these seemingly stupid things.
Have you ever had a chance to pose as a pinup model?
Wives, remember that men are visual animals, and your husbands are no exemptions. Surprise him with a sexy picture of you as a pinup model, just for this time. This idea is so crazy but, it worked well even for those who are really conservative couples who were married for like 10 to 12 years already. There are professional photographers who are specialized with this kind of photo shoot. They provide the theme and suggest costumes for you. They even ask you to dig in your closet for seductive clothes which you have wanted to wear but never had a chance. If you have developed bulges on your tummy due to age and previous pregnancies, never fret about it. These professional photographers have magical ways to make your photos great regardless of your flaws. Your husband will be excited and honored to receive this as a gift in one of your special dinner dates. For sure, he will see you in a different light after he saw your pinup portrait.
Why not enjoy the things at home?
Typically, husbands and wives stay in the same place, unless he is working offshore or is deployed somewhere. If you see each other every night, why not have a date while watching TV together? You can have a great conversation about your yesterdays like the first time you’ve met. You will be surprised about many revelations. Those boyfriend-girlfriend days are different from the present. Those are the days when you both were still trying to impress each other. Now that you have been too familiar, there are secret thoughts that are so funny to uncover. Share a great laugh and sleep happily together.
Here are other simple dates that are free which both you and your husband can enjoy at home:
1. Exercise together.
2. Cook each other’s favorite food.
3. Compete in cooking dinner with your kids as judges.
4. Stargazing on the roof.
5. Talk about common interests.
6. Review your yearbook if you went to the same school. This will remind you of how you were in High School or College. The old feeling will be remembered.
7. Talk about old friends.
8. Massage each other’s feet. You can do this simultaneously by sitting on a couch facing each other and massaging the soles of the feet. This is a great bonding and relaxation idea.
9. Drink, dance and be merry. This requires only your favorite music, a beer or wine- anything alcoholic, and being happy. Imagine this as a celebration where only you two are the guests.
10. Take pictures of each other. You can have serious, whacky or even, jump shots! Play pretend and enjoy the fun.
Why don’t you try to get lost in paradise?
Different people have different definition of paradise. Some go to the beach, others to the mountains. Travel with your spouse to destination you both love. You can also try to visit unfamiliar countries. The idea that you do not know anybody in that place aside from yourselves makes you feel dependent on each other. You have to treasure every passing moment. Later in life, when both of you are old and cannot walk from your rocking chair, you will reminisce the happy times you both had. You will be thankful that you lived your lives to the fullest and that you had that delightful rendezvous during the springtime of your younger years. Dating is essential even for long time couples. It strengthens the bond and deepens the connection. Traveling gives an experience to discover the world together.
Don’t underestimate non-verbal communication with your spouse
When dating, how you look and act are important to show that you really love your wife or husband. Do not be selfish to show him how deeply you care about him. Never mind if it sounds corny or horribly horny for you. As long as it is what your heart says, go ahead. Relive the passion lost in years and over familiarity.
Marriage should not stop the dating practice. Continue to enjoy each other’s company from now on and through the years to come.