We are made of flesh which is weak in nature. And this weakness can be compounded with so many things in a marriage that can bring out all kinds of emotional turmoil you are bombarded with almost all the time. This is when cheating can be so tempting and it can be the most prominent thing you can think of, even if you have no candidate yet to do it with. Yeah, this is a crazy truth, but this happens within the recess of your minds whether you accept it or not.
Cheating is tempting when you are under appreciated
As a wife, you play a lot of roles for your husband. You are the temptress who needs to bring out his sexual fantasies. You are the mistress who keeps him satisfied in bed. You also need to be the cook who keeps his stomach full. You are his manager who can keep his castle going smoothly so that he won’t be bothered with menial things because he already spent his energy at work. It so happened, you are also half, if not more, the provider ensuring you pay for household cost as well. And in return, your husband will go home from work right away. However, with all the things you have to do for the family, you would want to be patted on the shoulder once in a while. You would want to be treated to dinner for a job well done and you would want to be kissed and be told how happy he is for having you as a wife. But this doesn’t happen as often as you would like it to be. And if your husband forgot to do anything at all to appreciate you at all, it can be distressing. And with distress, you would seek out somebody who can appreciate you because your husband can’t or won’t. If you are in a situation like this, cheating can be very tempting even if there is no candidate yet for this clandestine love affair.
Cheating happens when husband stop putting an effort to excite you on bed
“Losing the battle in bed”
There is a general characteristic of men that zones out when they get so used with their wife or their daily life. This characteristic takes everything for granted. When everything becomes a routine and this routine is very convenient for them, men don’t want to disrupt it or forgot to put in some effort to make it even better. Sex is not different. While this is a very pleasurable act a married couple can enjoy together, at times, a husband just doesn’t see the logic of spicing it up. If both of you can achieve orgasm with just simple positions, why do anything else at all? This can take a toll on a wife especially if she has to go through this for years and years to come. Once in a while, you would want to feel you are being desired. If your husband stops altogether to make sex enjoyable, then cheating is never far from the corner.
Cheating becomes inevitable if you feel your husband don’t want you anymore
When the time comes that your husband won’t even give you time of the day to ask how you feel or buy you silly things to tell you he thinks of you; then it is a very sad feeling. You do all the things to keep things in order, from preparing his meals, ensuring he has clean clothes to wear for work, taking care of his children and a lot more. You would want him to do little things for you like voluntarily rubbing your back to ease some backaches or touching your implying things he wants to do with you on your bed. These simple gestures assure you that despite being busy and concern with daily pressures, he still wants you. But if your husband is unable to give this feeling or assurance in a very, very, long time, then it shouldn’t be a surprise if you find yourself cheating.
Yes, you can have all these reasons and you can justify the act of cheating. But there is a reason to why we are creatures with minds to think – we are not all flesh. While it can be very hard to be neglected and harder still to resist especially when the offer of satisfaction is there, you know cheating is never justifiable. If you feel you are not happy or is being mistreated, then you do things properly and walk away from the marriage. Cheating is not a solution but another problem you brought to your door. This will not really make you happy – in fact it will make you feel worst and more unloved than ever. So keep the respect in your person. Walk away with dignity and kick your husband in the bum to remind him you still are his wife and he has the obligation to keep you happy and satisfied.