There you have it; your mistress wants to blow your covers and you are feeling very helpless about it. Either she wanted to get a total ownership to you or just wanted to get an equal share of your wife’s public image, you are doomed to a situation like sitting in a very hot seat.
What you should know when your mistress threatens you about blowing your covers?
It is a wakeup call, dude! This is no laughing matter. You are about to ruin your family when you only want to have fun while your wife is painstakingly worrying about where you are. In this case when your mistress wants to call her up to make reports, here’s what you should know:
She’s a freak. Yes, plain and simple. She wants to control you by threatening you. Only lunatics control other people’s decision especially if you are both adults. Even if it is just a joke, it is not funny at all.
You are dumb. It hurts to realize that you picked a freak. If you wanted to maintain a mistress and maintain your wife at the same time, you might as well choose the mistress material.
You are in an abusive relationship. That is the saddest thing. You cheated your wife for pleasure yet, you got yourself into hell. Your mistress can use all her powers to intimidate you. This is her control tactic.
How do you manage yourself in a situation like this?
This is a given situation. You cannot turn this around. If your mistress sets her mind on confronting your wife, then that’s it. All you can do is to make yourself ready. Here are the things you have to do:
Take it with a great possibility. If your mistress mentioned about confronting your wife, that means she is planning to do so. She is cooking her action and measuring the outcomes of her actions. Never underestimate her capability.
Plan your exit. Consult an attorney on this. If you want to leave her, make your decision firm and quick. If you wanted to be with her, divorce your wife before your mistress confronts her. She needs her pride to get back on her toes after divorce. Your attorney had handled situations like this before you. He has many ideas to make this easier for both of you.
Don’t place yourself in the middle. You already are. Do everything you can to avoid dramatic confrontations. If your mistress is hysterical and shoving you, get out of the room. This situation is dangerous because she might hurt herself and make false stories that you caused it. Call her friend to be with her instead.
Never hit her no matter how she provoked you. This is a sick trick. She may call the police and expose you in a worse light.
Don’t maintain a social media. Pictures of you and your mistress are easy to upload. Your wife can get across it and you will be doomed.
How do you manage your mistress?
Monogamy is a beautiful thing. Men can do this because they are intelligent organisms. They are not subjected to instincts like animals. But, when the animalistic behavior gets the best part of you and womanizing in inevitable (as you assume it is), Here are ways on how to manage your mistress:
Orient on the first day. Before your relationship with your mistress deepens, you have to set your limitations. Tell her what you can do and what you cannot. This is establishing grounds so that you will not hurt your wife.
Conduct psychological assessment. You can make a quick assessment of what she is capable of. Observe how she reacts to the situation first before engaging.
Survey social interaction. See what kind of friends she has. Although, you don’t have to meet them. In fact, you only have to allow yourself to meet two of her friends at a maximum. This will save you from future problems.
Identify bullying in the first stage. Bullying means getting what she wants, expecting too much and attacking you verbally. This character is not evident during the early stages of an extramarital relationship. If you see early signs of it, get out of the picture as soon as you can. This woman is not worth the sacrifice to abandon your family.
If worse comes to worst, you have to know what you will do. Be on top of the situation. Control your mistress before she can ruin your life.