You blew your cover! Thanks to the wife who investigates and the mistress who came out in the open. Now, you are facing a divorce threat. How do you handle this?
Divorce? How can I prevent it?
In the first place, you yourself should know that this moment will arrive. You cheated and will soon be divorced! Hallelujah! It should sound great. That means, you will have all the time with your mistress without worrying about your wife. You can even marry her now. But, why the sad face?
So, the real score is that you love your wife, you never wanted to leave her and you are just fooling around. The problem is, she does not like to be with you, anymore. How do you prevent this? Here’s how:
1. Make her fall in love with you again
If you don’t want to court her more than you did when you were still dating, then you are in a pile of poop. To keep her from advancing the divorce, entice her. Do the things you do when you were still dating so that she can recall how you were before. Hopefully, she will remember all those loving moments that you once had and want to go back to those days.
2. Pinpoint the main problem
The thing that triggered the divorce is your extramarital affair. So, stop it as soon as you can and start your marriage all over again. She will be willing if she does not want to lose you.
3. Show her that you can be trusted again
Trust can be gained over a lifetime but it takes only a minute to break it, as the old saying holds true. Prove to her that you are still worth a second chance. She may not believe you but, offer an alternative solution that you are willing to change. Give her guarantee.
4. Don’t be passive
If you know that your marriage lack emotional intimacy, hot sex and physical attachment, then initiate these things to your wife. If you love her, be willing to work it out.
5. Talk to her
Often times, husbands and wives lack time to talk to each other. This leads to misinterpretations of the others intention. Ask her if she really wanted to end your marriage or is there something you can do to make things right again.
In case you did not know, what are the inconveniences of divorce?
To clearly describe the effect of divorce on your marriage, Here the things you should know:
It’s your family and your tiny tots look up to your relationship, divorce can give them a bad picture of themselves. They think that “Mommy or Daddy does not like me that’s why they are getting divorced.” Or “they don’t want me in the family”. They end up growing with self-doubt.
Poor regard on marriage
Teen-age kids develop low trust on marriage and that is has no significant role in the adult’s life.
Divorce creates depression
Either you or your partner will suffer health problems. Divorce is never an option to heal yourself. You or your partner will suffer from depression and lose yourself in the labyrinth of guilt.
Divorce will cost you time and money
It is a hassle in your daily activities. All the hearing involved and the portioning of properties. To, some, it can also mean a lower standard of living. When the couple has divorced, you can no longer get a discount of taxes. You pay it whole because you have dependents to support. It takes away half of your property. Legal wives have a portion to as much as 50% of all your assets regardless if they are a conjugal property or not.
My goodness! How do I know that the threat is taking off to reality?
Divorce threat is no laughing thing. It has to be studied widely. A threat is still a threat unless; your wife has taken action to file it. Here are some pointers to tell if the threat is true or just a bark:
Is this the first time? If your wife is threatening you to divorce for the nth time already, then all she can do is shoot false threats at you.
If she gets back from her lawyer and whine about how difficult it is, chances are she may not pursue it.
Does she have a survival plan? If you see her planning her life after you are divorced then you can in a bad position that she is determined to push through her legal actions.
See the signs. Don’t let infidelity bite your marriage. Prevent divorce by loving your wife the more!