Yes, you must be tempted to say, “Oops, must have clicked the wrong link!” but you know you will never really get off so easily with it especially if your partner is the one who caught you in the act. If you married someone who just doesn’t let anything off the hook so easily then you should have thought of this before you opened the site. And if you haven’t yet been caught yet, then you better start concocting a plan in case you are caught. Well, for some, this is no biggie especially if they really did just come into the site by chance. But if you have invested in this dating site and really is an active member, getting caught by anyone is not good at all. So, what should you do in case you get caught?
It was never you
Yes, deny it to death. You have to take a drill to learn how to click & close everything at the speed of light. If you are in it quite deep – being a member and all – you just have to deny that you have been there. Back this denial with a different identity profile in case you are being pushed to open it the site and log in. Just tell the wife your friend’s friend gave you this access and that you got curious and that is how she caught you browsing the dating site. Of course, nobody is really stupid here but as long as you don’t tell her, then there will never be enough evidence to convict you with the act – even if you were caught doing just that. It is not really the browsing of the site; it is the fact that you have an account for such site that will rile up your wife up. So deny, it was never you and that you just browse the site the first time.
Dismiss and escape
Now, you are caught red handed with all the evidence your wife can hold. Don’t embrace the guilt. Just say “Puff, it is nothing – this is just one of the things guys do” and don’t let her talk about it anymore. Yes, not a healthy way to get out of this quandary, but hey, you just got caught. You have to get off the hook by not providing your wife the leverage. Be casual about it, tell her it is nothing and she should not make a big deal about it. If it makes her unhappy then show her you are willing to cancel the accounts – I advice you not to go near the computer for a while. Don’t forget to buy her presents too. Do everything in your power to get her off the scent. Your wife is not stupid but she won’t be able to pick a fight if you are being so nice.
Keep things accordingly – there should be no room for error
In the end, prevention is always better than the Oops… so you better fail safe technology by knowing how to get the following covered:
1. Learn how to hide your browser’s history. Better yet, you make it a habit to keep it strategically messy. Clean history means you are hiding something because you don’t keep a browsing history. So what you should do is to learn how to delete some (like the dating site) and leave the safe ones behind. Also, be sure you keep the password in your mind. You can never be too cautious to have username and passwords for dating sites lying around anywhere. You have created a pattern of your password where you can remember it easily.
2. As careful as you are with browser history, you must be more vigilant with your phone. If you are too possessive with your phone, your wife will surely suspect. So you just have to learn to delete logs and messages you don’t want her to see. Again, leave your phone lying around strategically and within your reach so you can reach it easily if there is a message.
3. Don’t use a shared credit card to pay for dating site account.
4. Don’t forget anything open on your laptop after using it. Learn to shut it down properly.
As much as possible, don’t let yourself get caught. Make it a habit you don’t leave personal things just lying around. Wives are suspicious creatures and you don’t want to trigger your wife to suspect you. However, if you are caught, then avoid confrontation at all cost, deny if you must and if you can’t deny it, then dismiss all of it. Just sidetrack the jealousy. You know your wife, play on her senses to make her forget it enough for you to escape.