And so the war between the Martians versus Venusians continues and this time, it’s all about who gets to cheat more. Well, women would certainly say “Isn’t it obvious? Men are polygamous in nature, so why ask?” and on the other corner, men would say “Women are not so vocal about it so they don’t get caught but they really cheat more.” But who do you think cheat more, men or women?
Men cheat more because they are polygamous by nature – a baseless reputation?
Since time immemorial, men are seen as polygamous. Why? You don’t hear women with a harem much, do you? There are women who can marry more than one man at the same time, in a remote place somewhere up in the world, for economical reasons. But for the heck of it, it is the men that have all the women they want such as the kings of lore, biblical and historical. So it is not really surprising to think that men cheat, all of them. However, the men seemed to be unsuccessful of late to keep this reputation by themselves. First, there are men who are really working hard to be loyal and they find it unfair to be doubted by their wives because all men cheat. Also, men pointed out that with the modern time with women having their own money, sometimes earning more than men, they can afford to cheat as well. So it would be really uncalled for if people still see men as the only polygamous of the sexes as the women are coming in a very close second. So while it still stands true to see most men as polygamous, it is no longer fair to treat them unfairly because women are no better in this area. It also does not help on some good loyal men to admit they didn’t cheat due to pressure from drink buddies or co-workers. Men think that monogamy is old-fashioned and it is not manly not to cheat. But as more and more women find ways to cheat, more and more men find ways to admit they really didn’t cheat.
Women cheat more but don’t get caught because they are excellent liars – a fact or accusation?
The thing is that, women have been known to cheat too. And the cheating has become easier now that women work outside their homes nowadays. They can also say they are working late. Women use phones as well and can really utilize the internet. In the course of time, occurrence of men raising children not theirs and without their knowledge is about 15% – and this is at a time where birth control is readily available! This shows that women do cheat and it seemed that they know how to lie about it as they fare better than men in keeping it a secret. Women put in more effort than men not to be caught. You see, women don’t talk if they have an affair, even with their friends; because even with the equality of men and women these days, women are still being judged harshly if they cheat. If men cheat, wives often opt to forgive but it rarely happened if it is the other way around. So to keep the peace and the family, women lie about their clandestine affair to everyone, keeping it a secret up to their grave if they have to.
What statistics show?
It is not a secret that infidelity is one of the primary reasons of divorce, about 17% of the divorcees. Men still hold the record of cheating their wives; around 70% of men do this. The women, however, are not so far behind. 60% of married women now either went on an affair or one night stands within the duration of marriage. If you think about it, soon, both numbers on who cheat will be just about the same! A report from Sexual Behavior showed that out of 918 women and men who filled out a survey form online asking them if they have cheated their partners 19% women and 23% men admitted that they did.
While it is still men who cheat more than women, 4% more as of 2010, the latter are not so far behind to point accusing fingers out to men. And the most interesting thing about it all is that both men and women don’t cheat because they are really unhappy with the marriage. Some people cheat because they can and it is fun to do so. Well, there are the usual reason like bed incompatibility and low self esteem among others. But seeing how men and women succumb to their flesh, it will not be surprising to see more people not marrying or not believing marriage anymore.