Man–woman bonding starts out in friendship before it can progress to marriage. If you can remember the first time you and your husband met, the first dates and the building up of intimacies, you will notice how communication transforms from a simple eye contact to sharing of comfort. Comfort in marriage heightens sexual relationship. When you or your husband feels bored and sex becomes a chore, you start to look outside of marriage.
Look into your relationship with your wife-or husband and stop procrastinating.
When you notice that the warmth in marriage is fading, you have to act as soon as possible before you find yourselves wandering away from it. Analyze situations where you failed. Point out what made the bond of intimacy weak. There are three major factors that contribute to low sexual drive in marriage. These are:
When you and your husband are away from each other for a long time, you are prone to an extramarital affair. There are a lot of couples who have the best intentions for their family to work offshore, which ended up in a wrecked relationship. This is because new place means new horizons are opened to either of you. And maybe, new interests will develop. What you had in your former place belongs to that place and time only. A new relationship is fitted for this new place and new time which looks very exciting.
When the wife of the husband is too busy with work or studies, they do not notice their partner anymore. As a result, the unnoticed partner finds comfort in another person who always shows up around the house. This is the reason why you hear real stories where the husband run away with the nanny or the wife have an affair with the husband’s best buddy.
When the husband or the wife is unhappy with their marriage, they tend to look for warmth and intimacy somewhere else. When helplessness and sadness grips their heart inside the marriage bond, they seek relief from the outside.
How can you excite your partner again?
Extramarital affair does not mean that your husband or wife does not love you. Sometimes, they are just drawn astray because of the three factors you have just read earlier. To bring the spark back, you have to know the things that can bring back the former intimacy that was lost. Here are tips you can use:
Looking, touching and sharing
Prolonged eye to eye contact can progress to touching. And touching can heighten the sexual intimacy where passion is shared. Shower your partner with lots love but, not to the extent that you are distracting his passions like doing their job or finishing his/ her studies. Help each other build your dreams while maintaining an understanding and intimacy.
Play the part
Make yourself attractive not for others but for yourself. If you feel beautiful, you will look beautiful, Positivity attracts your partner. How you act to others makes others respond to you.
Connect with emotions
Marriage is not just a sexual relationship. It is also an emotional bonding. Sex is related to the total context of the day. Make your day a preparation for the night time intimacy by showing it with the way you look and how you respond to your partner throughout the day.
Compared to singles, why are married people vulnerable in getting into an external affair when they get bored with their partners?
Most married people have grown in knowledge and responsibility. This is a very attractive character that draws singles around them. As humans, they are vulnerable to temptation. They are also thrilled with the thought of a “no strings attached” relationship since they have their own husbands or wives. Involving with someone outside marriage means no additional responsibilities, no need to impress the parents and the relatives. Everything is just for fun. So, when the bedroom with the legitimate partner gets boring, covert operation with a fling provides high excitement.
For singles who flocks around married men or women, this is contributed by their competitive personalities. When a single co-worker is attracting a married man, it is simply because she wanted to feel victorious over the wife. Often, this is a plain and simple power trip that leads to shame and feeling of guilt.
Never assume that once you are married, fidelity is sealed. Maintain intimacy by being innovative to keep the spark in the bedroom and even in all corners of your marriage.